Undoubtedly, one of the most serious aspects of any divorce or paternity case is how the Divorce Court (or the parties themselves), will ultimately determine the issue of child custody and visitation. While the path of a child custody case in the Albuquerque courts is fairly predictable, clients get in trouble when they lose sight of the overall importance of custody agreements, especially when their divorce lawyers fail to keep them focused on the impact these decisions will have on the children.
So many of my Albuquerque divorce clients ask me, how do we decide what kind of custody arrangement is appropriate? Most divorce lawyers will say something like, “It really should be decided on a case-by-case basis,” or “Every case is different.”
One of the most unconventional ways to move forward in your child custody case in Albuquerque is with a child custody expert (most often a therapist or psychologist) who works with the clients outside of the presence of the lawyers to help the parties work through their custody issues.
When It Comes to Your Child Custody Case in Divorce, You Shouldn’t Always Believe Everything Your Kids Tell You
Kids always want to please both of their parents, and this is never truer when it comes to divorce. Often, when a child is with his mother, he will tell her, “I want to live with you.” Then when he is with his dad, he will say the same thing.
The most important consideration in your child custody case in Albuquerque is what your child or children really need, and that comes down to understanding – and being honest about – what each parent can bring to the equation.
At the outset of your divorce case, unless you have very unusual circumstances, you should let your Albuquerque lawyer know that going to court will be the last resort in deciding your family’s custody arrangement. (However, if you or the child are being abused, involving the court will almost always be required).